My husband and I, Lake Tahoe hiking trail.
Last Sunday, I cuddle close to my husband as he sits next to me on our sofa. It is our babysitter-free date. It only requires intentionality.
We ignore the bills waiting to be paid, and the vacuum cleaner begging for attention.
For the past few years, on and off, we slow, and connect on Sunday night. We ask what was a highlight, and what was a down point for the day and/or the week.
Some days roll into each other to become a seamless ball of weeks. In the past, several Sundays have whizzed by without any deep heart connection. We give grace when we fail to slow and savor each other's presence.
The day to day talk about doctor's appointments, paying bills, and what's for dinner is necessary; but it won't create the deep soul-to-soul touching needed for a thriving marriage.
It is crucial to set aside time to have fun together, and to connect emotionally. It doesn't always have to be a deep conversation. The main thing is to focus on each other exclusively - even if it is only for 15 minutes.
Marriages have seasons, and some seasons are more challenging than others in terms of carving time out for a date. Be gracious to each other in the process.
I can hardly believe we celebrated 21 years of marriage. As I wrote this post, I recognized I am still a student in the art of marriage.
To read what my top 10 lessons learned, either directly, or by observation, (e.g., #9) are, please read here, where I have the honor of guest posting.
I look forward to meeting you there.
Thanks, my friend.
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