10 Things I leaned in July

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I accidentally deleted this post so when I recreated it, I lost all the comments. So sorry!

Hey, we’ll return to our Love Series after this Top 10 List.

In no particular order:

1. Tim and Kathy Keller’s conversation on the Psalms. Worth listening to twice!

Kathy Keller: “…so often what we want is the gift of God’s hand rather than the glory of God’s face. And that’s what sort of propelled me to say, “I want Your face. . . .That’s the only way I can get through this [her health challenges], give me Your face.” 

From Part 2 of their interview of their new book The Songs of Jesus.

Tim Keller: “Every human situation is in the Psalms and it shows you how to pray through it, how to get through it, how to process it in prayer.”

From Part 1 of their interview of their new book The Songs of Jesus.

2. Mimi Dixon’s analogy of the church as “God’s Flight Simulator” encourages me.

“We are careful to keep the learning environment [the church] free of condemnation and full of good humor, because. . . nobody gets it right the first time—or the first five hundred times.”—Mimi Dixon

Amen! Read the rest of Mimi Dixon’s article here.

3. I appreciated each person who shared his or her story at Fuller Seminary’s Story Table on integrating psychology and theology.

I loved Sheila Muchemi’s honesty when she said, “Even though I’m in the profession, I remember actually arguing with one of my student friends: “I don’t understand why you guys do therapy; I have God and I have my friends, and they seem to play the same role. I don’t see why I need therapy.”

She shared how therapy was not common in her native Kenyan context. Now after a year into therapy, she said, “I’ve met God in ways that have surprised me. I’ve gotten to know myself in ways that have changed me, and I’m like, “This so beautiful,” and, “Where was I? Why didn’t I start this process much earlier?”

I also appreciated Jenny Pak’s words: “When I began to recognize that there was pathology and sin in all cultures, I saw. . . How did Jesus come to give us life, and life abundantly, when so much of what I was learning in the church was taking life away?”

Luann’s courage in the face of loss touched me: “An epic part of my relationship with God has been grabbing God by the lapels, if God has lapels, and saying, “You said you would be faithful.”

Find video, audio, or a transcript of the evening as various faculty members gathered around a dinner table and shared their stories of how they integrated psychology with theology.



Photo by Flickr User: Sean MacEntee

4. Milan and Kay Yerkovich’s 5 Love Styles (not to be confused with the 5 Love Languages) assesses how we love others. Fascinating!

You can take their free online Love Style Quiz here. 

Milan and Kay share what each of their styles were (Pleaser and Avoidant) and what they had to learn so they could become Secure Connectors.

Their work is consistent with what I’ve read of Dr. Daniel Siegel’s books on attachment; the Yerkovichs show how attachment relates to their Christian faith.

5. A new definition of compassionate from Brené Brown’s latest book Rising Strong:

“Compassionate people ask for what they need. They say no when they need to, and when they say yes, they mean it. They’re compassionate because their boundaries keep them out of resentment.” (115)

The context for this quote is what Brown learned when she agreed to speak at an event because she didn’t want to be considered “too big for her britches” by the event organizers.

If you were taught to be “low-maintenance” and not speak up about your needs, her story is eye-opening.

Brown isn’t advocating being high-maintenance, only being honest about what one needs without shame.

6. Love this Bethel worship song because it reminds me: “I’m no longer a slave to fear, I’m a child of God.”

Listen to the song while also reading the lyrics to the song “No Longer Slaves,” here.

7. If you plant sunflower seeds, water, and wait a few months, yellow sunflowers on tall green stalks appear.

Such fun to watch our daughter’s excitement to see her joy at the flowers appearing after she planted the seeds.

8. The Nature Conservancy’s favorite images of birds from their contests makes me smile. 

I can’t decide which photo is my favorite. What about you?

9. Nothing new to say but a new way to say it. (My paraphrase of Flannery O’ Connor’s quote.)

“There may never be anything new to say, but there is always a new way to say it, and since, in art, the way of saying a thing becomes a part of what is said, every work of art is unique and requires fresh attention.” —Flannery O’ Connor, Mystery and Manners, 76.

10. In response to a selfie that unexpectedly went viral, Crystal Hodges made this video, “Making a Difference.”

I was born with a noticeable facial difference, a port wine stain birthmark, on the left side of my face. No matter what the world constantly tries to tell me…I know am beautiful.” —Crystal Hodges

Linked with Emily’s “What I learned this Summer” here.